Keep Your Dreams To Yourself
Please don’t share your dreams. Otherwise, they won’t come true! But seriously, unless you’ve become a motivational speaker who has published hundreds of books on the topic, nobody needs to know what you dream about while you’re in bed. This applies whether you are talking or writing.
The first time I gave a speech class, my professor had us get up in front of the course and tell our “dreams”… needless to say, I was the laughing stock.
Your Dreams are YOURS
You’re not alone if you’ve ever wondered how to keep your dreams to yourself. I’m a dreamer, and I know it’s like to have trouble sharing my dreams with others.
I’ve had some of the best conversations with people about their dreams. And, by far, the most common theme is this: That person’s dream is something they’ve never shared with anyone else. It’s something they don’t want to share with anyone else.
Why do we keep our dreams so close to our hearts? Why don’t we want to share them with others? And why don’t we want anyone else to share their dreams with us?
Our dreams are personal things, and they belong only to us. When someone shares their dream with you, they’re giving you part of themselves — the amount they feel most vulnerable about exposing.
As a result, when you open up about your dream or goals, you’re opening yourself up for criticism, judgment, or rejection.
So we tend to stay quiet about our hopes and aspirations so that no one will know how fragile we are inside when it comes to achieving our goals!
Get Some Momentum Before You Drop the News
Most people have dreams. But the reality is that most people never pursue those dreams.
Why? Because they are afraid to fail, they don’t know how, or they don’t think it’s worth the risk.
I have spent many years not pursuing my dreams because of fear and doubt.
But now I know better. And so do you!
So, what do you say? Are you going to start living your life? Are you going to stop playing small and take a risk on yourself?
Here’s what I suggest:
Keep your dreams to yourself for now. You don’t need anyone else telling you what they think about your plan or how realistic it is (because who cares what they think anyway). You need to get some momentum before sharing your goals with others.
Once you start taking action on your dream and making progress towards it, it’s time to tell others about it!
People Will Tell You You Can’t
It’s easy to get caught up in other people’s negativity, especially when they’re trying to stop you from doing something that they disagree with.
keep it to yourself, If you have a dream.
I know that sounds crazy. But hear me out: there are too many negative people in this world, and they will try to tell you that your dreams are too big or that your goals are impossible.
And if there is anything I have learned in my life, it is this: if someone tells you that something is impossible or too difficult, they are wrong, and they don’t want you to succeed!
As soon as someone tells me what I can or cannot do, I immediately become determined to prove them wrong. And usually, I do!
Find your tribe: Find the people who will support and encourage you. These are the ones who will be excited when you accomplish something unique! They might even offer advice on how to achieve certain things. But remember – this isn’t their journey;
Your Dreams Are NOT Up For Negotiation
The reason you should keep your dreams to yourself is simple. Your goals are not up for negotiation. There’s no such thing as a “good idea” in the eyes of others — and there never will be.
If you want to be an artist, don’t tell anyone that you’re an artist. If you’re going to be a rock star, don’t tell anyone that you’re a rock star.
If you’re going to write books and make millions of dollars doing so, then don’t tell anyone that this is what you want to do with your life.
Why? Because they won’t believe you — at least not right away. And even if they did believe you, they might not like it or support it or encourage it in any way whatsoever (even though they may have good intentions).
And even if they did like it and keep it and promote it in some small way (which is unlikely). Eventually, their interest will fade away because their own lives are busy and complicated and full of other things that matter more than yours do at the moment (which is also unlikely).
Sometimes people are not happy for you
Dreaming is a normal part of life. It’s what allows us to visualize and create the things we want for ourselves, but it’s also straightforward for those dreams to be crushed by the negative opinions of others.
It can be hard to keep your dreams to yourself because you want to share them with friends and family members who will be excited for you.
But sometimes people are not happy for you because they haven’t achieved their dreams yet, or they’re jealous that you have one and they don’t.
People sometimes take their failures out on other people’s success. They’ll try to bring others down to feel better about themselves, even if it means destroying someone else’s happiness in the process.
This is especially true for money and career ambitions — two areas where people often feel insecure or frustrated because they haven’t made as much progress as they’d hoped by a certain age or milestone (such as graduating college or getting married).
Your supporters maybe your critics
If you share your dreams with people, they will either support you or criticize you. And if they charge you, they will most likely try to stop you from fulfilling those dreams.
I’ve been through this situation many times before, so I have learned this lesson well.
When I was younger, I shared my dreams with many people, and they all criticized me for not having a backup plan and for thinking about quitting my job. They didn’t believe that I would be able to make it happen.
So what did I do? I kept my dreams to myself until I was ready to take action on them! When I finally took action and started building my business from scratch, it took me years of hard work before anyone believed in me again (and even then, there were still doubters).
They secretly want you to fail
You’re in a meeting, and someone says, “I have a dream.” What do you do?
If you’re like most people, you start thinking about how they’ll never achieve that dream. You think: “They’ll never get there.” And when they don’t get there, you’ll feel happy and superior.
But why should we feel happy or superior? Why not be happy for them? Why not wish them healthy? Why not say aloud, “I hope your dreams come true”?
We all have dreams for ourselves and others. But we often keep our plans to ourselves because we fear rejection or ridicule. We fear that others will not like us if we tell them our hopes and dreams.
We fear that others will think less of us if we reveal our desires and ambitions. We fear that if we speak up and say what we want from life, people will laugh at us, try to talk us out of it, or stop taking us seriously.
This fear is genuine — but it’s also irrational! How can one person’s dream be another person’s nightmare? How can one person’s goal be another person’s goal? How can one person’s ambition be another person’s ambition?
Your dreams need your protection
I have always been a dreamer. I have always had big dreams and goals. When I was growing up, my mother told me that I should never share my dreams with other people because it would make it harder for me to achieve them.
She said that if I shared my goals with others, they would think it was okay to tell me what they thought about those goals and what they thought about how I planned on achieving them.
As a result, I kept my dreams to myself for many years and didn’t tell anyone what I wanted out of life until after I’d achieved them or gotten closer than ever before.
However, when you keep your dreams to yourself, you’ll find that you don’t have the support system you need to reach them because nobody knows what’s going on in your head or what your intentions are when it comes to achieving something great in life.
When you keep your dreams to yourself, it can be difficult for people who don’t know you well enough to understand where you’re coming from or why you need something so badly that it’s worth fighting for, even if nobody else thinks so or believes in what you’re trying to do as much as you do!