How To Build Confidence

How To Build Confidence

How to build confidence ? this question will be answer in this blog.

If you’re lacking in self-confidence, life can be tough. You might find it hard to believe in your talents and question your abilities at every turn. But don’t lose heart – confidence can be learned, and you can build it up slowly until you feel good about yourself.

Research shows that confident people enjoy better career success, make more money, have better relationships, and are healthier and happier than those who lack confidence.

 

Think Of Days You Feel Confident

Think of days you feel confident, and why you felt that way. Try to repeat the same things on the days when you don’t feel so confident.

Act confidently, even if you don’t feel it. If you start acting confidently, then your body will believe it, and eventually your mind will too. Confidence comes with practice!

Imagine yourself as a confident person. What would they do? What would they think? How would they act? Now start acting like that person!

 

Refuse To Talk Negatively About Yourself

One of the most important habits you can develop to improve your confidence is to refuse to talk negatively about yourself.

You know what I’m talking about — things like: “I’m so stupid” or “I can’t do anything right” or “I’ll probably screw this up.”

When you say things like this, it’s like taking a hammer and banging away at your confidence with each word.

But it’s not just what you say out loud that matters. It’s also the thoughts that go through your head that matter.

And when you find yourself thinking thoughts like, “I’m a loser” or “I’ll never get this right,” you need to stop as soon as possible and replace them with more positive things.

You might think you’re only hurting yourself by saying negative things, but the truth is, you’re also hurting others who hear you. There are people who look up to you in some way and hearing you talk down about yourself makes them feel bad too.

It makes them feel bad because they see themselves in you, and maybe they’ve said some of the same things about themselves too.

 

Learn How To Accept Criticism

Learning how to accept criticism is one of the best ways to build confidence and become more successful. All of us need feedback to grow, but when people are candid with their opinions, it can be hard not to take things personally.

It’s important to remember that even if someone’s delivery isn’t great, they might still have something valuable to teach you.

When we discussed how to give constructive criticism without pissing people off, some of our readers suggested that the reverse was just as important. Accepting criticism can be a tough pill to swallow, but it will help you improve at work, in your relationships and in life. Here are some tips for taking feedback like a champ.

 

Wear Something That Makes You Feel Good

One of the tricks that I’ve used over the years is to wear something that makes me feel good. You know, like a shirt or a jacket or even just a pair of shoes that you really love that makes you feel cool and confident.

When I’m wearing one of my favorite jackets, I feel really confident and certain that I can handle whatever comes up during the day. Sometimes it’s a black suit jacket and sometimes it’s a very colorful Hawaiian shirt.

I’ve always been amazed at how much my clothes affect my mood. For example, putting on my running shoes automatically gets me in the mood to go for a run. Putting on swimming trunks makes me want to jump into the water. Putting on my favorite jeans makes me feel more relaxed and happy than any other pants.

And now when I put on my favorite jacket, I have an extra level of confidence that helps me get through whatever the day throws at me.

 

Look At What You’ve Already Achieved

A lot of people struggle to be confident because they spend too much time thinking about what they haven’t achieved or what they still need to do.

If you’ve just started a new job, for example, you might feel that you don’t know enough and that everyone around you is more experienced than you. If so, it’s easy for those feelings of insecurity to dominate your view of yourself.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. One of the most straightforward ways to build confidence is to remind yourself of everything you have already achieved.

The next time you start to feel insecure, try this simple exercise:

Important note: It’s essential not to judge or criticize yourself during this exercise. If you catch yourself saying things like “That isn’t very impressive” or “That doesn’t count,” stop and refocus on the positives.

 

Think Of Things You’re Good At

You can’t expect yourself to be perfect in every area of your life. Even if you’re the best in your field, there are areas where your skills may be lacking. That’s why it’s helpful to recall the things you know you do well.

For instance, maybe you’re a good listener. Or perhaps your brain is wired to think creatively. Or maybe you always see the best in people and can spot their strengths and weaknesses right away.

Make a list of these positive parts of yourself and use them as your building blocks to success in other areas.

And remember: It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers right now or if you need help with certain tasks — even the most successful leaders ask for help.

 

Find Yourself A Confidence Role-model

If you’re lacking in confidence, the most obvious antidote is to find yourself a confidence role-model. Not someone you like, or even someone you admire (that might help), but someone who genuinely inspires and impresses you with their confidence.

You’ll know it when you see it. When such a person enters a room, people sit up and take notice. They seem larger than life.

They are confident and charismatic. Maybe they are successful too, but that’s not important. What matters is that they have the kind of glamour and charisma which makes them stand out from the crowd because they are so self-assured and have such presence.

If you can identify a person like this in your life (or even if they’re just a celebrity) then use them as your inspiration to build your own confidence.

Research them online, read what they have to say, watch videos of them speaking or being interviewed on TV. Study their body language and mannerisms, their dress sense and tone of voice. Ask yourself what it is about them that draws people to them like bees around honey… or like moths to a flame?

The point here is not that you should be copying this person in any way – unless of course you want to – but rather that.

 

Face Your Fears

The most successful entrepreneurs I know have something in common: they are not afraid to fail. It’s true.

They have developed the confidence that comes from facing their fears and learning from them.

It’s a skill that has helped them make tough decisions, take smart risks and learn from their mistakes.

Face Your Fears  to Build Confidence

If you’re driven to succeed, you’ll put yourself in situations where failure is always on the table. You can’t let fear of failure prevent you from trying new things or taking risks that may lead to success. 

When you’re scared of something, it’s easy to believe that you can’t handle it. Tackling your fears head-on is the only way to prove yourself wrong.

Don’t let your worries run wild.

The first step in overcoming your fears is simply to recognize them for what they are: irrational thoughts that are keeping you from living a full life.

You can do this by sitting down and writing out everything that’s making you anxious or nervous about a situation. Then take a look at the list and ask yourself if these are real threats or just unhelpful thoughts.

Share your concerns with someone you trust.

If you have a friend or family member who has similar challenges, confide in them about the things holding you back. You may be surprised to discover that they’re experiencing similar feelings and just haven’t said anything about it yet!

Set small goals for yourself, and work up from there.

Face your fears one step at a time by setting small goals for yourself. The first time I flew on an airplane was when I was eight years old – my dad took me up in his Cessna 150 while we were visiting relatives near the airport where he worked as a pilot instructor.

 

Don’t Care What Others Think

If you’re a confident person, you don’t care what other people think of you. 

I’d like to tell you that I’ve always possessed this trait, but the truth is that I’ve only developed it in the last year or so. And I can honestly say that it’s one of the most liberating traits I’ve ever adopted.

Before I adopted this mindset, I was always concerned with how other people would perceive me.

So here’s my advice: Don’t care what others think. In fact, be proud of it!

 

Surround Yourself With Positive People

I’ve been guilty of this. I remember one job I had where I’d gossip and complain about my co-workers, and then wonder why I didn’t feel good about myself, or the people around me.

The people you surround yourself with can have a big impact on your life. If you surround yourself with positive people, you’re likely to be more positive and confident. If you surround yourself with negative people, you’re likely to be more negative and doubtful.

I’ve heard it said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. This means if we spend most of our time with negative people, they’re bound to rub off on us. The same is true if we spend most of our time with positive people.

Make it a habit to surround yourself with positive people, who will encourage you and build your confidence, rather than bring you down.